A wise one once told me, “if you probe in a trashcan, you will find rubbish. But if you stare at a rainbow long enough, you’ll see dancing fairies”. Everything is magnified by the power of focus.
What will you do with your mind?
Life has many pits, for every hill, there is a valley. When you are looking down, you are likely to see more valleys. I’m not saying that there aren’t many negatives, I’m just wondering why you should dwell on them.
If you are the kind of person who dwells on what’s in the media, you’ll find it is mostly depressing stuff. As one war ends, another starts. The economy? Crime? Don’t even get me started on the environment. Yada, yada, yada. You’ve heard it all before.
Like the drip drop from a faulty sink, these unending noise is the background of our life. At least you might be able to do something about leaking plumbing,
most of the things in the media are completely out of your control. You can’t do much to affect it.
By all means vote and if you feel passionate enough, write a protest letter, carry a protest sign, contribute to that fund. And once you have done what you can do, let it be.
Do not let what you do not like take away from you what you love. Do not let disagreeable people prevent you from sharing positive energy.
Cultivate the happiness of your mind as a habit. Find the things you love doing and do it. Find people who like the same things you like and associate with them.
No matter how small the scale find something you love doing and keep doing it. Give your happiness a time and a place in your routine. Small things can give big rewards. Small things can grow.
Let me give an example. After one of my business failures some years ago, I got interested in barbequeing. I didn’t know jack about that kind of cooking so I watched videos, read books and started practicing. I come for my family and they hailed my faulty efforts overtime until I got a bit better. I never quite become a MasterChef although a friend started calling me a backyard grill activist. But it was fun. It was therapeutic too. No matter how I felt, the hobby was always able to give me a pick-me-up. It was fun to learn, it was fun to cook and it was fun to watch people eat my food.
There were times when I would come home depressed, I found that throwing some meat on the grill did not let me stew in my negatives juices. The spark that lit the fire also did light up my mood.
Depression is real and some may need to get medical and psychiatric attention. Most of the time, it comes like the drizzle that you think does not need an umbrella until a few hours on, you discover you are drenched through and through. Invariably, it helps to plan a few feel good activities into your day.
Take a walk in the park. Tend to a potted plant or garden. Help a stranger. Play board games with friends. Volunteer. Go out and have a drink, just to spend time in conversation with friends. Cultivate a hobby.
Whatever lifts up your mood, find time to do it regularly. Often that will involve making other people happy. Happiness is like a skill; the more you practise it , the better you get at getting better.